So I am now an official blogger and fairly new convert to crunchy attitudes. My daughters teach me the ways of the new world (social networking and crunchy life style and such). Early on the subject was home schooling. This was very foreign to me at first. How do you socialize a child without school? How do they learn about hard work and schedules and study? Now I know that it's all poppycock. I am glad that Aellyn (my granddaughter) won't be going to public school. She won't be worried about measuring up - or forced to cope with unreasonable expectations. That's how I felt in school. My first memory of kindergarten was of a girl deciding she didn't like me and wouldn't let me play. Aellyn's first experiences have been with Mom and other babies and moms learning age appropriate songs and play. She is happy and brave and friendly.

Nursing, attachment parenting, co'sleeping, baby led feeding, gentle discipline all are new to me having grown up in the 50's - but I am on board. My 50's childhood was very wonderful but I want even more for my family now. So crunch on all you crunchy moms and dads, crunch on.

I think my next post will be about my first experience with co-sleeping.

50’s Childhood

This post is written for inclusion in the Carnival of Gentle Disciplinehosted by Paige @ Baby Dust Diaries. All week, April 26-30, we will be featuring essays about non-punitive discipline. See the bottom of this post for more information.

When I was around 3 years old I was smacked on the cheek (slapped across the face seems a little harsh) by my father because I wasn’t doing what he was telling me to do. I was holding a large bowl of popcorn with buttery hands and it felt like it was slipping when my dad told me to give it to my bigger sister. My sister put her hands on the bowl, but I was not letting go after being told 2 or 3 times to do so……….and my Dad wanted to teach obedience. Well I let go of the bowl and climbed up on my mothers lap to cry, I think I felt humiliated…..I remember being able to tell that my dad felt bad about doing it but felt that the lesson learned was important.

Now I love my Dad dearly – he has always been my hero – the most honorable and dearest man I have ever known. I was never spanked or hit ever again…and all my memories of my parents are of gentle teaching, love and respect. So I tell you this memory because of another event that has made me think differently about the whole incident ever since.

When I was 56 years old my husband and I were in a Cardiac Rehab Stress Management Therapy session with a wonderful Psychologist at a community hospital. The therapist had us close our eyes and imagine ourselves alone and standing in a spot light on a stage. Then we were to turn into the child we once were – as young as we could remember – and tell our parents what we most wanted to say. To my astonishment I was transported back in time to the scene with my parents and sister having popcorn in the basement celebrating the new play area mom had painted for us. I hadn’t thought of that for years and suddenly I was crying and telling my Dad that I was sorry I didn’t listen to him, that I thought the bowl would fall to the floor and break if I let go, that I loved him and forgave him for hitting me……………………It was very powerful. It bothers me that I didn’t remember the time we all went sled riding on the biggest hill ever and climbed on our bellies on the sled – dad on the bottom, mom on top of him, my sister on top of mom and me on top of my sister and went heads first down that hill laughing all the way, falling off in the snow at the bottom and climbing the big hill to do it again. Why didn’t that come to mind or the many other great times we had together?

I do believe that we need to teach our children, but I ask you…. What will your child remember?

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